The second element to building a relationship of trust is remember.  Every person has a story and it usually hurts as they tell what it was like to grow up in their family.  Some have wonderful stories of feeling completely loved and cared for.  Most have a memory of something much different.  Feelings of not being accepted, neglected, lonely and inadequate.  Don’t get me wrong.  Many of us have fond memories of our childhood but there is also much pain as we remember our youth, siblings and parents.  Without exception, when I have been a part of a group where individuals shared what it was like to grow up in their family more than one person in the group cried when they remembered this time period.

My early memories of our family are country.  I had two brothers.  The picture above is a jokingly memory of what we would have looked like.  Country, smiling and the appearance of the elevator not going to the top floor.  My whole family was country.  Drinking water with a tin cup from a well in the front yard.  Coal stove in the middle of the living room at my grandmothers house.  Killing hogs in October and eating squirrel and dumplings that my great grandfather provided.  My dad went to the 6th grade.  I remember wanting more for myself at a very early age.  As early as I could remember, I wanted to have more choices than my dad had.  His circumstances were no fault of his own.  He quit school to go to work when his dad was killed in a train accident.  As I grew up we went to auctions on Saturday nights.  I played a lot of sports.  I got into a lot of fights.  I started working when I was 8 years old.  All of these things mold the way you are as an adult.  

As you know a persons story, you will look at them in an entirely different way.  Below is a video which describes the power of “Every Person has a Story”.

every person has a story

Take time to remember with those you value most.  Your lives will never be the same!